Bad Days and How to Make Them Better

 

When you know the day is going to be bad, is there a way you can change any of it?

I had the thought as I was looking through the books being offered at low and deeply discounted prices on Weberbooks.com this morning. The book in question is: Ship of Dreams by Donna Jones Alward. Today it is 99¢, and I bought it. The link, when you read this, will likely have taken it back to its normal price. However, that said, in the blurb, it talked about how skillfully the author was able to create a novel of what I can only think of as hope, as love and friendship are involved in the situation of the Titanic going down.

Hence, my question. Can you change a bad day into a better day?

It is difficult, I think, once you are seated and on the rollercoaster, to jerk yourself into awareness and change. Generally, once you’re belted in and the ride has started, you are locked into a hair-raising ride. I wouldn’t really know. I’ve been frightened of rollercoasters all my life, and to my knowledge, I have never been on one. I did once get stuck on a Ferris wheel at the top. That was not pleasant.

1. Take a deep breath and see what happens.
2. Think of something you know that will be happening in the future that you can concentrate on. I do this with dental appointments.
3. Do something to interrupt the proceedings, whatever they are, to break the cyclical spiral down. Like, open up your computer and write about the situation with a view towards turning it into a horror short story. There is also an appropriate time for this, too. I wouldn’t do it at a GYN appointment. Plus, if you laugh with all those steel gizmos stuck up your whatzit who knows what could happen?
4. Be brave and endure the proceedings, knowing they won’t last forever.
5. Say something affirmative so you can emerge whole and complete. When I was raped, I thought over and over, “I’m still me. I’m still me. I’m still me.” That actually helped.
6. Decide that the next day will be your other birthday. We instituted a custom in our house where my husband and I could each have a second birthday each year. I actually had one day before yesterday. You can also buy a present for yourself and for your partner/spouse if you want to. It’s just a fun day out of nowhere. Our rule is that this second birthday is never the same day as your real birthday. You get to pick the day out of the blue, so it doesn’t have to be the same date every year. You don’t even have to give any notice. That’s what I did the other day. I just said to my husband, “Today is my birthday.”
7. Call your mother if she is still alive and tell her about it. If you are a psychic, like I am, you can still talk to her if she has passed on. Check the links at my other website, Talking to Spirit, for further reading about becoming a psychic if you are interested in talking to dead people.

Those are just a few things that came to mind. Now that I’m thinking about it, I suppose you could cobble together a spell. I don’t know anything about those things. I’ve always had a fear of negative blowback or what people sometimes call Karma.

For that matter, the writing of it won’t let go of me. You could start with a short story with a view toward what you’ve learned that is positive and life affirming, even though the experience itself was negative. Once you have that written, if it still won’t lie still, you could double it in length. If it still won’t settle down, write a book. There, that should put it to rest. Plus, you’ve got the benefit of having gotten a book out of it.

Well, out of one incident, how do you get a book?

You are a writer. The lady who wrote the book I was talking about above did it. I’ll have to see what she has to say and see if I could do something similar.

Remember, as a writer, everything that happens to you in your lifetime is grist for the mill. Everything. Even the bad stuff. So, that is turning the bad stuff into good stuff, right?

Thanks for sticking with me and reading to the end. Follow along and make me a happy camper today.

🌺 Pauline Evanosky

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Where Do Ideas Come From?

 

The other day, I had one of those lovely, long dreams where I was teaching. Or, rather, I was speaking to a group of young people. They were students in my dream, older ones. Some of them might have been in college, for all I knew. But they asked me, or rather their teacher did, if I might speak to them about writing.

The first question lobbed my way was how I came up with my ideas.

I told them that I didn’t go looking for ideas; the ideas just came to me.

You can’t force that kind of stuff.

One of my routines is to reach for some calm. I don’t know if you do something like this, but it involves a tiny bit of ceremony. Mine isn’t flamboyant or involves sweating up a storm walking in the morning. No, mine is a cup of coffee, though I only do that one in the morning. It mostly hinges on reaching for stillness, for emptiness. I seek stillness, calm, peace. I try to become one who listens. I wait for an idea. I pretend I am ready.

Sometimes, it works right then. Other times, being in that small state of readiness is enough.

Mostly, what I write these days on all the different platforms where I write is of the moment. Whatever occurs to me. Now, if I were working on a book, that would be a different matter. If you had a writing assignment, then the focus of your writing would involve whatever you’d been asked to write about.

My main theme is empowering people to reach for their dreams. I want to be someone who motivates others. I want to spread happiness, kindness, and sunshine wherever it is needed.

One of the things I want to bring awareness to is a person’s psychic senses. I call it woo-woo, but it’s really just you using your other senses to a different level.

Sometimes, I even picture the people who might be reading what I write, but mostly, as in the dream, it involves a group of people who are interested.

You’ve got to pretend this stuff. Most of us don’t get paid for the writing we do. All that builds slowly as you develop your craft. I guess, mostly, I want to encourage others to read and write. It would be nice to know others who do that. I missed that growing up. I lived in too many places, and well, people just didn’t like to do that. We did for school assignments, but I never really met anybody who just liked to read and write for the sheer joy of it. Wait, no, that isn’t right. My mother was a reader. Maybe that’s where it comes from. That would make sense.

The way I write, I wait for it to come. I have to put dread and worry out of my way. I have faith that something is going to occur to me that is going to be worth writing about.

Stephen King was once asked where his ideas came from. I wondered too. In those days, I was a wanna be writer, and I just didn’t have a clue. He said he walks out into the desert and walks. As he walks, he also looks around, and something will appear to be sticking up out of the sand. He said he would dig it up. I’ve thought about that for years. I believe he said the desert because that is the clear place in his mind that he ventures into. It makes sense. Something sticks up to catch your attention. It’s sort of what happens with me.

If you’d like to learn more about what Stephen King thinks about writing, buy a copy of his book On Writing.

Another thing that happens to me often is while I am reading what others write, both in books and more so, on the internet. They will be talking about something, and my brain starts pinging. It’s like popcorn popping. I can’t control it. I have to move to a blank piece of paper and start writing. I am not stealing their idea. I’m reacting to it.

I suppose, if you think about it, we are all playing an instrument in an orchestra. Together we can make a big, beautiful noise.

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References I recommend on your path to more psychic awareness from TalkingtoSpirit.com