Pauline Evanosky

Tuesday, May 12, 2026

Your Dream - Take Aim

I believe everybody has a dream. I’m not talking about the dreams we have when we are sleeping. I’m talking about the dreams we have when we are awake.

I’ve had lots of dreams since I was a child. Some of those dreams happened for me. Most did not. Many of them changed as the years went by. Also, I’ve never met a person who only ever had one dream. Dreams are a dime a dozen, but dreams mean more to you than they ever will to anyone else.

Does that mean when you get old enough, it is time to set aside your dreams? I think not. Perhaps you think, as a grown-up, that having a dream is unrealistic. Maybe you’ve got a full-time job that does not leave you with enough time for a dream. Maybe you have a family and all the obligations there just don’t leave time for a dream. I know about this. It happened to me. If it happened to me, I’m betting it’s happened to you, too.

So, what’s to do about it?

Dream away. Having dreams is where a future is to be found. Your dream is not going to be magically handed to you on a silver platter. You’ve got to do something to make it possible.

Okay, let’s take one of my dreams. I dreamed for years of being a writer. I thought that someday I would write something. I would write a book. I told people this dream of mine until, one day, I realized I must be boring people. I’d been saying it for years. I’d actually run out of people to tell. I had a horror of boring people. I was also shy, so if I didn’t tell them I had a dream, what was I going to do? Talk about the weather? No.

I would write.

It happened when I was again looking for work, and once again I found a job in an office. I’d had so many jobs like that. I could see my life passing before my eyes as a secretary in a job. Not a career. In another job. Doing things for other people. I vowed that day to begin writing. As it happened, three years later, I finished writing a novel. That it has been under the bed all these years, unpublished, is not a loss. Writing that book proved to me that I was a writer. It began the dream.

Am I a famous writer? No. Am I a good writer? Sometimes. Am I ever going to make a living at writing? The jury is out on that one. Why do I continue? Because it is all my dream.

Dreams are hope springing up. Demanding a place. I will do this.

Think of your dream as a target. The outermost ring is you having the dream. It is an ethereal energy, a substance that is not yet formed. It is a dream.

The next ring in is where you begin to give the dream substance. This is where, if you are a writer, you begin a daily practice of writing. This is the ring where you read more than you already do. This is the ring where you find other writers and read their work, where you commiserate with each other, and where you share experiences. This is your “right company”.

The next ring is where you challenge yourself to write one article each week for a publication. If it is your own place on Substack, Medium, or even Facebook, it is where you publish your writing. To do this, you confront all sorts of demons you have about writing. Your fear. Your sense of inadequacy. Where you learn to brave criticism and comments. This is you showing up.

However many rings you need to go through to hit the middle of the target is up to you. Some people will earn accolades and awards and become best-selling authors the first time they write something. It happens, but it happens so rarely that you should discount it out of hand.

What you have is different. You have perseverance. You have determination. You will not let go of your dream.

As time goes on, you continue to write. As you set up challenges for yourself, you will learn how to be a writer.

Until one day, you are on the target. You have hit the middle, the bulls-eye. You are the person people turn to when they need help with whatever it is that you are an expert in.

As a writer, I, more than anyone else, am the most important person to believe in me. Do yourself a favor and believe in yourself.

Thanks for reading. If you’d like, check out some of the other places I write below.

🌺 Pauline Evanosky

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Thursday, May 7, 2026

Bad Days and How to Make Them Better

When you know the day is going to be bad, is there a way you can change any of it?

I had the thought as I was looking through the books being offered at low and deeply discounted prices on Weberbooks.com this morning. The book in question is: Ship of Dreams by Donna Jones Alward. Today it is 99¢, and I bought it. The link, when you read this, will likely have taken it back to its normal price. However, that said, in the blurb, it talked about how skillfully the author was able to create a novel of what I can only think of as hope, as love and friendship are involved in the situation of the Titanic going down.

Hence, my question. Can you change a bad day into a better day?

It is difficult, I think, once you are seated and on the rollercoaster, to jerk yourself into awareness and change. Generally, once you’re belted in and the ride has started, you are locked into a hair-raising ride. I wouldn’t really know. I’ve been frightened of rollercoasters all my life, and to my knowledge, I have never been on one. I did once get stuck on a Ferris wheel at the top. That was not pleasant.

Take a deep breath and see what happens.
Think of something you know that will be happening in the future that you can concentrate on. I do this with dental appointments.
Do something to interrupt the proceedings, whatever they are, to break the cyclical spiral down. Like, open up your computer and write about the situation with a view towards turning it into a horror short story. There is also an appropriate time for this, too. I wouldn’t do it at a GYN appointment. Plus, if you laugh with all those steel gizmos stuck up your whatzit who knows what could happen?
Be brave and endure the proceedings, knowing they won’t last forever.
Say something affirmative so you can emerge whole and complete. When I was raped, I thought over and over, “I’m still me. I’m still me. I’m still me.” That actually helped.
Decide that the next day will be your other birthday. We instituted a custom in our house where my husband and I could each have a second birthday each year. I actually had one day before yesterday. You can also buy a present for yourself and for your partner/spouse if you want to. It’s just a fun day out of nowhere. Our rule is that this second birthday is never the same day as your real birthday. You get to pick the day out of the blue, so it doesn’t have to be the same date every year. You don’t even have to give any notice. That’s what I did the other day. I just said to my husband, “Today is my birthday.”
Call your mother if she is still alive and tell her about it. If you are a psychic, like I am, you can still talk to her if she has passed on. Check the links at my other website, Talking to Spirit, for further reading about becoming a psychic if you are interested in talking to dead people.

Those are just a few things that came to mind. Now that I’m thinking about it, I suppose you could cobble together a spell. I don’t know anything about those things. I’ve always had a fear of negative blowback or what people sometimes call Karma.

For that matter, the writing of it won’t let go of me. You could start with a short story with a view toward what you’ve learned that is positive and life affirming, even though the experience itself was negative. Once you have that written, if it still won’t lie still, you could double it in length. If it still won’t settle down, write a book. There, that should put it to rest. Plus, you’ve got the benefit of having gotten a book out of it.

Well, out of one incident, how do you get a book?

You are a writer. The lady who wrote the book I was talking about above did it. I’ll have to see what she has to say and see if I could do something similar.